The Quote That Reminded Me To Stay Positive Post-Split

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When we first launched HuffPost Divorce in 2010, we featured a series called “Divorce Aphorisms of the Day.” 

The series — just like the section itself — was the brainchild of the late Nora Ephron, a woman whose wit and wisdom on the subject of divorce and heartbreak is unparalleled. 

“It crosses our mind that there’s far too much attention paid to aphorisms about falling in love and not nearly enough to those about falling out of love,” Ephron wrote in the introduction. 

She was absolutely right. In homage to Ephron — and because quotes about heartbreak really should be given more due — we’ve relaunched the series with the help of our readers. Was there a saying, quote or mantra that helped you move on during your divorce? We want to hear it! Send the quote and a few sentences about it to  for consideration. 

At 31, Ava Griffin moved out of her marital condo and into her own apartment. After being in a relationship since she was 18, living entirely on her own — paying her own bills, buying a car in her own name, claiming both sides of the bed — was more than a little unnerving. 

Three years after the divorce, though, Griffin says she’s more successful and happier than she ever imagined she could be.

“I learned firsthand that divorce really doesn’t have to be your destiny,” she told The Huffington Post. “Although it seems like a dark hole you’ll never climb out of, you will in your own time. It will happen and you might not even notice it!”

Below, Griffin shares the quote that reminded her that better times were to come after divorce.

“To be honest, I can’t remember where I read the quote above but it affected me greatly during my divorce. Although simple, the message gave me hope at a time when I felt like I was mourning a death. I struggled dearly in the beginning: Post-split, I got my own apartment, a car in my own name and I went back to school. I was working three jobs just to pay the bills. I was living with the bare minimum, to say the least, but I wanted to do it by myself from that point on, no matter how hard it was. I wasn’t about to let my ex take credit for any part of my future success. For me, this quote meant hope, peace and happiness would all reenter my life in due time but at that moment, it was OK to be sad.

Eventually, time did heal my wounds and life went on. I put all my energy into my job and began to excel at it. I got my master’s degree, a specialist degree and a bigger, brand new apartment. I feel more fulfilled than I ever have before and that’s all because I can finally take care of myself.” – Ava Griffin

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